Don't Give Up

Some years ago when I was much younger than I am now, I was going through major butthurt over the idea that people aren't always what they appear to be.  Every time this came up, the pain was intense.  One night, I couldn't sleep.  I turned on the teevee and happened upon New Radicals singing this song on one of the vid stations.  I was still learning that other people's crazed behavior reflected far more upon them than on me.  After hearing it, I was able to sleep.  I went out and bought the album the next day.

               http://youtu.be/F9bS6JFlueI 




This morning, I heard the song again.  I remembered the pain and I also remembered how I was able to keep striving in spite of what other people around me were saying and doing.  The will to live is a very powerful thing.

sapphoq on life  

Outsider's Manifesto

I am here because I am myself.  I am alone in my own skin.  I no longer seek to fill up my interstitial spaces with the stuff of a society that I do not fit into and that I do not comprehend.  I have not deliberately sought to be a non-conformist.  I do not object to following the rules if I know what the rules are and they make sense to me.  I do not often know what the rules are or why I should follow them.  This causes me to be classified as an outsider-- and at times extra-legal-- by others.

I am practical.  I like gently worn, soft clothing.  I like sensible shoes.  I don't like wool, polyester, or the holes in weave when a wind kicks up.  I have been accused of dressing in a uniform style.  I don't understand why that is a problem.  I like the way I dress.  There is no make-up or hair treatment chemicals in my life.  I have no one that I wish to impress with anything akin to a fashion sense.
 
I am quiet.  I am given to fits of solitude interspersed with periods of superficial sociability.  I have many thoughts but few spoken words.  I think in patterns.  I embrace my passions.  I have no desire to edit them for the sake of your comfort-ability.  I like what I like.

Bits of songs wander into my brain at random.  At times I will sing these bits to the dog who appears to love it, or at least doesn't seem to mind.  I make up words that I have forgotten.  I alter words as I wish.  When I am singing, I am happy.  You do not always get my jokes.  I don't always get yours either.  I relish laughter.  I am not afraid to laugh out loud when I find something funny, amusing, or unexpected.

I don't remember faces all that well.  I use hair and voices to identify others.  If you describe the face of someone that you think I know, I will usually stop you.  That doesn't help at all.  There are other things that I also don't do well.  I am not into participating in any sort of team sports.  I am athletically awkward.  I run like a duck.  My jog is very slow.  I stumble, trip over my feet, walk into things.  I usually wear a hat or a visor to block light and glare.  I favor soft dull light and low wattage bulbs.  I can hear fluorescent lights.  I can tell when one of them is about to burn out.  I am highly distractible.  Multi-tasking is something I avoid.  I do everything at my own pace.  When working on a problem [usually related to getting something or other to run correctly] I am determined beyond the point of stubbornness.  I can work on a problem or on something that interests me for hours at a time.  If I am not interested, I don't last very long at all.  I have a random chaotic style of doing things.  My organizing skills are practically non-existent.

I am somewhat ambidextrous.  On the rare occasion that I consent to iron something, I iron with my left hand.  I eat using both hands.  I can draw with either hand.  I can write with both hands at the same time going forwards, backwards, upside-down left to right, upside-down right to left.  When I take things apart, I use both hands equally well. 

I am playful.  I play with words, computers, code.  I like to put stuff together in unexpected ways.  I prefer to start at the ending and then work my way up and backwards.  Trouble-shooting and investigating are two things that I do well at.

I am curious about many things.  My passions immerse my whole being.  I want to know how stuff works, the whys of form and function, what gets you out of bed in the morning.  I love trains, exploring new places, learning a new language, rendering photographs that I've taken into works of art.  I love textures and colors and grains.  I collect rocks.  I think old stuff is pretty cool.  I prefer interactive history over dull recitations of sentences committed to rote memory.  The smells of an office supply store, flowers, and a field after a rain are attractive to me.  The taste of ice cream envelopes my tongue and throat.  I can read grade one Braille using only my fingers and not my eyes at all.  My clumsiness disappears when I dance.  When I close my eyes, I see color-stories when listening to music.  The color emitting from a public unsanitary bathroom makes me nauseous.  I can swim like a fish and I love all water.  When I am in the woods, I feel free.  I am made of Carl Sagan's starstuff, born of the ocean, a lover of movement.  I wander and ramble through many places.  I am here because I am my own true self.  I am.

sapphoq on life

Sirius Black Tiberious Oz

There is a new kitten in the house.  Sirius is four months old and pure black except for a few white hairs on his chest.  He has the runarounds and has been working hard to win over the older cat.  His relationship with the dog was quickly established since she is the lover of all little dogs and cats.

Sirius allowed both of us to pick him up when we met him and he immediately started purring when we did so.  Once home, he cautiously explored each room before settling down in the living room.  He will follow either of us as we move from room to room.  He also offers a small soft "meow" when hungry.

Sirius alternates between having the runarounds and napping with or without a human when awake.  He has not staked out a window as of yet but he seems to favor the living room window when he stops long enough to look out of one.  I am relieved that he looks and acts nothing like the late great Twinkle.  Consequently, Sirius also "saved" Easter Sunday for me.  Hanging out with some atheists and Christians became enjoyable for me.  Without Sirius, I may have yielded to the temptation to yield to a quiet and profound grief.

There are no decent pictures of him yet-- I will share one when I get one--  but he looks very much like a mini-version of this cat: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Itty13.jpg : who is an Oriental shorthair.  Sirius definitely has a triangular face and the big ears.  Still and all, there are certain pitfalls associated with determining kitten species based on a few physical traits and personality.  So I shall assume that he is a typical American shorthair or what we used to call "alleycat" in years gone-by.  That Sirius may or may not have a bit of some other kind of kitty in his unknown to us ancestry really doesn't change anything at all.

As a child, there was one dog Fifi that I may have mentioned before.  She was a Christmas poodle puppy that I found on the couch when I was in fourth grade but my mother had given her away/sold her/dropped her off at a pound or somewhere the following summer on a Sunday when I was visiting my dad without warning.  I've heard from others that this was the way the getting rid of unwanted pets was often done in those days.  My heart was broken and I was seriously butthurt at the time.

There was also a cat when I was younger.  It was one of those gray tiger looking cats.  Looking back, I suspect he may have had a home but was allowed to roam the streets freely but I don't really know.  I befriended him and he spent some time with me on my open-air front porch.  I presented him with cat food and water until my mother suddenly [and probably rightfully] insisted that I stop feeding him.  I came across his body in the street around the corner from me after that-- he'd been hit by a car-- and in a childish overly dramatic way I blamed my mother's ban on feeding him for that one.  I soon gave it up though.  It was only when I was older that I understood that if there was to be blame, it ought to be assigned to owners who allow their bird-killing-machines to roam freely in what was what a large city [or any place really except for perhaps barn cats-- my grands' barn cats pretty much stayed in the barn and didn't venture out onto the road].  And then there is the overpopulation of cats and dogs that causes some to go to shelters and some to be abandoned by uncaring owners and so forth. 

Sirius is fixed [as all of our cats and dogs are] which is my contribution to helping to stem the overpopulation tide here in the u.s.a.  I understand that there are folks who breed purebreds with papers and I even understand the value of purebreds.  At any rate, our cats and dogs are usually not purebreds.  The one who was a purebred [flat-coated retriever] was not suitable for breeding due to a birth defect in one eye and so he also was fixed.  If I was wanting a purebred for breeding purposes, by necessity I would also be showing it.  Because a purebred with papers but without show titles is just a purebred with papers.  The value of purebred dogs is that they were originally bred for certain traits which much of the time translated into certain jobs.  Here I am thinking about purebred dogs who ride on firetrucks, do search-and-rescue, act as service dogs, go to ground when chasing small varmints, hunting dogs. tracking dogs, and so forth.  I am less specific on the value of purebred cats other than that some folks might like a certain look.  Again, a purebred with papers without being shown is just a purebred with papers.

sapphoq on life says: It is my opinion that there are entirely too many backyard breeders-- folks who either breed their mutts or who breed purebreeds without showing them-- and not enough responsible people who do the right thing for their animals.